thoughts about my name and mental health
My name is Nasiba, hi! Have you ever heard about this name? In the country i grew up i heard this name about 2 times in 23 years of my life, i heard its not really common in arabic countries either. By the way, im from Kyrgyzstan. Check it out, new country to explore :)
Im here to write about what surrounds me, whats going on events im at, what actions affect my life and what do not. What I say, what I do, whichm kind of movements I make. I analyze every little thing that I notice, and I am here to share it with you and with myself. Im here to discourse and look at things with every different angle cuz we are all so different! This is gonna be one of the ways to learn about myself.
So…today i wanna talk about something what i caught myself thinking recently. Emotional dependency. Most of the times it could be from your partner. The tendency to be in a constant search for a “perfect parent”, a person who would compensate him for what he once did not receive: unconditional love, unconditional acceptance, reading his needs without saying them out loud, immediate satisfaction of his needs and would satisfy him with your love. Does it sound familiar for you? It does for me and im working on that with my therapist, hope you too! What does the everyday life’s thoughts of someone suffering from emotional addiction look like? A person will be too demanding of their partner and “testing” them, like now i will be in this EXTRA and expect that they will endure all this and will definetely accept me like this: defenseless, angry, desperately lacking of love, unable to solve their own issues, they will accept me when i am at my worst state! What do we see: A child’s attitude bordering on low self esteem from, unfortunately, not always a prosperous childhood. A person very much doubts whether he is loved enough, whether he is valued enough, is he worthy enough? Sometimes this can progress to a stage of paranoia and fear of abandoment. Very often they have anziety-depressive dissorders, obsessional and phobic neuroses, social probia to varying degrees is very common. It’s very sad and unfortunate that most of the times a well being and mental comfort, turns out, depend on another people..
That is a little preface for the next time of my writing, i will tell my personal stories and share more observations about patterns of unmet affective demands.
Happy to see everyone here with me, byee!
